Here is the second interview in our moving abroad series. This week Rebekah is telling us how she has found her year abroad. Thanks for sharing Rebekah!
Tell
us a little bit about yourself.
My
name is Rebekah, I’m 27 and I am English. I graduated as primary
school teacher last summer and have spent the last year living and
teaching in Paris.
Which
countries did you move from and to and why?
I
moved from England to France. In my degree studies, I specialised in
MFL teaching and thought spending a year abroad would provide
invaluable experiences and resources for my future teaching career.
I
also just really wanted to experience life in another country!
What
kind of expectations did you have before you moved?
I
moved to Paris without knowing a single person, so my expectation was
that it was going to be tough at first – particularly as a lot of
the English have a huge
stereotype of the French as rude and stand-offish (and I was moving
to Paris; the capital of this preconception!).
Did
your new country live up to these expectations?
Definitely
not, I found almost all of the people I met to be very friendly and
welcoming.
I
think that the misconception is partly due to people not trying to
learn/speak the language of the country that they are going to. I’ve
overheard so many English/American people whilst I’ve been here who
have been cross that some shop assistants/waiters hasn’t been able
to speak any English! Almost all of the French people I have met
whilst I’ve been here have been very
interested in my language learning and they’ve been really willing
to help me along (sometimes a bit too willing...it’s a bit
embarrassing/disheartening when even the six year olds are correcting
your grammar!).
What
was the best thing about moving?
The
best thing about moving was the challenge - the opportunity to force
myself to be out of my ‘comfort zone’ and really push myself to
speak and learn as much of the language as possible.
What
was the worst thing?
Two
months before I moved to Paris, I moved in with my long-term
boyfriend, Dave, and so leaving my home and my newly-built life
behind was definitely the worst thing.
That
having been said, in the end it has definitely become one of the
hidden benefits – as a couple we have grown closer than either of
us could have ever imagined. So I guess my worst thing has become one
of the most positive outcomes!
What
has been your favourite experience since you moved?
Oh
my goodness! Where to start! In terms of school experiences, I
think the constantly hearing echoes of “Rebekah, Rebekah! Hello,
how are you?” from my primary school children as I walk through the
playground or around the school is definitely a favourite experience.
In
terms of being in Paris in general, I think simply the opportunity to
get to know such an amazing city. There’s always something going on
here, something to do, something to see, somewhere to visit. I’ve
been incredibly lucky to spend so much time here.
What
steps have you taken to accustom yourself to your new country?
Learning
the language! Definitely the major step I made to accustom myself. I
arrived with bits of classroom French, quite a lot of travel French
and some shaky conversational French – but you can’t really make
friends and get to know people until you know enough language to hold
up your end of a conversation/give your opinion on something.
What
tips would you give someone else thinking of moving abroad / to your
country?
My
first is one of those predictable pieces of advice that are just so
easy to disregard – but just don’t say no to ANYTHING when you
first arrive. Even if you don’t think you’ll enjoy it. It’s
surprising just how many experiences you would have quickly
dismissed, through nervousness or otherwise, that actually end up
being life-changing.
My
second is definitely to try and stay positive. It’s not going to
be easy 100% of the time, it’s not going to fun 100% of the time
and (as Jenny has mentioned in her previous post) it can be lonely,
even in Paris! But “c’est la vie” as they say and each
experience, positive or negative, helps us to develop who we are.
It’s easy to look at other people and think “well she/he are just
finding it so easy” – but ask yourself honestly, when you’re
finding it difficult, do you have a breakdown in public? Or do you
put on a smile and wait until you’re home? So who’s to say that
the person you are putting on the pedestal isn’t having
lonely/disheartened moments in the privacy of their own home?
Is
there anything else you would like to share?
I
think I’d just like to say that if anyone is ever in two minds
about making the leap and moving to another country, for however long
or short a time, just do it! We only truly regret the things we
didn’t do after all.
I’d
also like to thank Jenny – her blog is so open, honest and
thought-provoking. I stumbled across it after I’d been here about a
month, and was feeling really homesick. It made me realise that there
have been other people in the same boat and that the positives really
do outweigh any negatives!
Thank
you for taking the time to answer these questions!